Below is our analysis of each couple. Just scroll down to see more.
The body language action at this pool party is an ancient game that millions of our ancestors played successfully to make babies and continue our species. Many of these body language tactics produced successful matings in the past and often still work today.Man-A Body Language Analysis:
However, leaning on his right leg and holding his left leg shows how he really feels: insecure, unsure, and needing support. He knows his bold, aggressive approach may get him in trouble with her. At any moment, she can publicly reject him in many ways that would greatly embarrass him in front of all the other men and women.
He fears her rejecting and embarrassing him, so he is feeling insecure as indicated by his unconscious body language showing a need for support. Men hate to be a "looser", especially in front of other men! But if he gets what he wants from her tonight, he will brag to his buddies tomorrow - and for the next week!
Men are "hunters" and strive to get "trophies" they can brag about to raise their status. Status seeking is very important to most men! That is an ancient drive hard-wired into men's DNA. It is the reason men are so competitive and combative. (You don't see women invading other countries and starting wars! That is a "man-thing" to do to gain status.)
She knows what this guy wants, and she is enjoying leading him on trying to get it. Her openness reveals that she feels confident and has great power over him because he is trying so hard. His intense interest in her makes her feel valuable and important.
His intense focus on her gives her a feeling at very deep instinctual levels that he would protect her and ensure her survival. That was a lesson her many female ancestors learned and passed on to her in her genes. For her (and most women in such a situation) at the deepest unconscious levels, this scene is more about her need for security and survival than about sexual pleasure.
She no doubt can read his cues indicating he has his own feelings of insecurity. (i.e. Holding his left leg shows how he really feels: insecure, unsure, and needing support.) Therefore, her left arm over her head says, "I am above you and I have you in my control." The arm over her head is an important body language signal indicating that she feels superior to him. She feels in control of him right now.
She is playing his game and knows his desire for her gives her some value and control for now. That gives her a sense of value and safety. She may enjoy rejecting him publicly later. Rejecting him would give her a feeling of great power because this guy is acting so domineering and powerful that he may become dangerous.
His left hand is on her leg while looking in her face and talking. This open display of him messing with her leg gives him a feeling of ownership of her - and the other guys better not interfere.
He is probably thinking, "She obviously is not objecting to me, likes me, and wants more. I'll see how far I can go." For men, there is always a likely possibility of rejection. (Men learn about rejection from experience beginning at puberty through uncountable bad tries until they die!)
Another fun game going on with this guy is his left leg playing footsie with her left foot. Even though he is very close face-to-face, his real goal is to draw her attention down to where his left hand is trying to stir up some action below. As he advances, and she allows it, his fear of rejection decreases.
This "hunting game" for men is very satisfying and is more fun for some men than actually reaching the final goal in the bed. For most men, their status as a "hunter" is extremely important to them. (We have a separate web page on men and their status on our other website here at http://relationship-studies.org/men-status.html
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Woman-F Body Language Analysis:
There are two primary themes for most body language. The first is primarily about surviving with the other people encountered daily. Much is revealed in body language about how physically and emotionally close everyone wants to get, and how much they do or don't trust each other.
The second major theme of most body language is about getting or defending against sexual encounters. In our socialized world today our real sexual desires are best left hidden! However, our natural desire for sexual satisfaction, or not, is often revealed in our unconscious body language.
When you see an attractive person nearby, your body language may start signaling, "Hey! Look what I have for you!" Is that what you really want to advertise? You may want to learn more about what your own unconscious body language is really saying!
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