Over half of the information you provide others about the connection you have with them comes from your body language. Some body language provides positive information, and some provides negative information. Positive body language says things like, "I am really interested in what you are saying." Negative body language says things like, "I don't believe anything you are saying - and I am bored besides!"
Although body language originates in the old brain limbic system and is done unconsciously, with training you can learn to minimize negative body language. Here are some negative body language cues to watch for and avoid.
Watch for these signs in the person you are with:
- Intermittent closing of their eyes.
- Slight tucking of the chin into their chest and backing away.
- Shoulder hunching and trying to appear smaller.
- Eye pupils tiny and glassy-eyed stare at you.
- Frequent yawning in your face!
If they are doing such things then perhaps you are sending powerful negative body language at them!
© Copyright 2005, revised 2009, 2015 by Lawrence Rodrigues, M.S., Director: EastWest Institute for Self-Understanding.
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