The Power of Touch Is Awesome Here
By now there has been considerable discussion, many laughs, and a couple of drinks. Both are feeling safer with each other. They both have gathered enough data to get an understanding of what pleases and displeases the other. That reduces the threat of being 'attacked and rejected' without warning. She knows she has a powerful tool to speed things up in this relationship now that she has decided not to reject him. So at some point she makes the bold move to touch him. This is a very important part of her body language used to signal him. All women have used it for millions of generations. It may be done unconsciously or consciously and it will appear to be ever so casual and innocent. But in fact it is a very important step. [NOTE: Read more in our other articles about this important female body language and how the male should respond to her "touch".]
Analysis of his body language, Scene 4:
(1) He is smiling and laughing as he converses with her.
His smiling and laughing are showing his pleasure being with her and that he is not threatening to her.
(2) He has opened his arms and is holding his glass.
He is being more open now with what he reveals about himself plus he feels a little safer that she is not going to attack and reject him. No need for a strong barrier - but a little defence feels safe.
(3) He is sitting a little more upright with feet pulled back in but not flat on the floor; they are on his toes.
No need to make a flank attack as it appears it is OK to approach directly. However, he must approach cautiously so he is literally on his toes!
(4) His legs are wide apart.
This open legs position is a common thing men do. It is an ancient, old brain limbic system program that is used to send warning messages for intimidating and dominating other males nearby. It is as much in men as is the peeing that male dogs do to send warning messages to others in the area to stay away. He is definitely interested in getting closer to her emotionally and physically. This open posture also sends a message to her that he is the 'dominate male' here ready to defend his territory and that for her the 'goodies' are hers for the asking.
Analysis of her body language, Scene 4:
(1) She is faced a little more toward him, smiling and laughing with him. She shows she is enjoying his company and having a good time.
She has approved of all his verbal discussion and his body language. She has discovered that he is a nice guy and she feels safe with him. He has worked hard to please her and she recognizes his efforts. Her smiles and laughs are intended to signal him that she likes how he is treating her and she enjoys his companionship so far in this brief relationship. She knows intuitively that now it is time for her to send him a message that she is going to let him come a little closer emotionally and physically. She does this with a very casual touch.
(2) She reaches out and touches him, as if it is part of a funny comment.
Her first touch is a signal to him that he is accepted and may come a little closer emotionally and physically. Her touch is gentle, reassuring, and nurturing, and appears ever so casual. Actually it is very definitely specific body language that is programmed in women at the old brain limbic system level. If not done consciously it will be done unconsciously. It is done at this point in every flirting game when she wants the male to come emotionally and physically closer.
(3) She opens her barriers. Her arm is extended and body is not so protected. Her neck is open and exposed to him. Focus is on him fully.
She is showing him that she is opening herself to him and will not harm him. She is well aware of his open-leg body language and knows what he wants. As she touches him she shows him her bared neck with its soft delicate skin rich with female pheromones. That makes his limbic system kick into overdrive! The biological chemistry of each of them is increased by their old brain limbic system now. Some of the many chemicals released by the brain at this point make them feel really good. Research shows that some of the brain chemicals released affect perception and actually make the other person look more handsome and beautiful.
Discussion
At this point both people are being strongly driven by their limbic system to get physically closer. This is a drive we inherited from our ancient ancestors, possibly to bring us closer in order to smell the other's pheromones. Research shows that women seek a male with an immune system as different as possible from her own. She can determine this by the man's smell. This gives her offspring the best chance for lasting good health and survival. This flirting and dating game is all driven by our inherited DNA programmed to ensure we don't let the human species become extinct. This is very serious work that the body must prepare to do. Heart rate increases and numerous hormones are circulating in the blood preparing all areas of the body for the important action about to take place, hopefully.
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