Scene 3: Each Evaluating Other for Desired Goals

Him: "Is She Gonna Give Me What I Want?"
Her: "Will He Be Safe and Value Me?"

There has been enough discussion for them to find they have some common interests. Both are interested in a new relationship so are willing to explore each other more. The key to long term relationships is common interests both can share.

He is also watching for what pleases her and is working hard to be accepted by her. He understands that she can reject him at any moment. She understands men are the "hunters" and women are the desired "game". A key word is "desired" and that means she has to use all her feminine tricks to appear desirable to him. Ever so subtly she will use her voice, gestures and body language to keep him trying hard to get ever closer emotionally and physically - yet, she must not appear to be too forward and aggressive. This flirting game is exciting, stimulating and at the same time scary but great fun!

Analysis of his body language, Scene 3:

(1) He straightened and crossed his legs at the ankles.
He has expanded his territory, but not in her direction. He literally "is gaining ground" in her personal territory but it is off to the side and not directly toward her. That would be too bold and invasive at this point.

(2) He has placed his hands on the table in plain sight.
By bringing his hands on top of the table he is not so hidden and is willing to expose himself a little more to her. He is "above board" and 'laying his hand on the table', as they say in card games - and flirting is a game!

(3) Only his face is still toward her but he is not fully facing her.
He is not approaching her directly in a 'frontal attack' but is creeping in to her personal territory from the side.

(4) His arms are forming a gate like barrier across his front.
He is staying in a safe protected area behind his 'arms barrier' and has not opened up to her yet as he knows she can 'attack and reject' him at any moment if she finds anything about him that displeases her. He still does not know what pleases or displeases her.

(1) Analysis of her body language, Scene 3:

(1) She has brought both hands on top of the table.
She has placed her "hand on the table", as they say in card games. She too is not so hidden and is allowing more exposure and committing a little more of herself to this brief relationship.

(2) Her right hand is on top of her left. This forms a closure in front of her body.
Although she is opening up a little in some ways, she needs to feel safe behind the barrier her arms and hands form in front of her body. She knows that he can find something disagreeable about her and reject her just as she can do to him. Both are proceeding slowly.

(3) Her face is up, facing him directly with eye contact and she has a nice smile but her body is not directed toward him.
She is slowly opening up even more to him and is willing to look him in the eyes but her off-set body shows she is still not feeling safe enough to be completely open and direct with him.

(4) Her legs are now out from under her and are out in front with the right leg crossed. Her lower body is not directly facing him. Only their faces are aimed directly at each other.
She too has expanded her territory a little but the crossed leg is acting like a definite barrier in his direction.

Discussion

He knows he must be gentle and go slowly to gain her trust. He knows she has what he wants.
She knows she must keep him interested in her to evaluate him more. She knows what he wants!