Even More Fun Is Ahead
Assume you both have gotten emotionally and physically closer. Most women's goal at this point is to seek some sort of commitment from him to get together even more closely. Normally it is the man's role to invite the woman to some future activity. The type of activities you two might engage in is endless, so the choices are what has to be sorted out in the data gathering process.When Does Kissing Start?
There is a time when you should kiss as a way of establishing a very close relationship and personal bond. (A kiss is just another way of touching. A really nice way!) Some people have screwed up the flirting game with guidance and rules that are all useless, impractical and mostly unworkable concerning the right time and place for the first kiss - or not to kiss.Most likely he will kiss you when he feels safe and he thinks that you will accept it. He knows that a kiss is "upper level persuasion for a lower level invasion." A kiss is his way of stimulating you for even more action. And of course it stimulates his body, too! This type of stimulation releases a flood of fantastic great-feeling hormones into all areas of both yours and his body. Background Learn More . . .
Where You Go From Here
Humans (primarily men) in leadership positions throughout history have complicated the final mating process. Different cultures and religions have tried to control how the mating is done for the maximum benefit to the whole tribe, community, or culture. Often the man-made rules violate all natural inclinations and destroy the ultimate beauty of the natural mating process.
Therefore the actual mating experience from this point on is highly influenced by each person's background, family training, education, religion and street lessons. Generally, in most western cultures, at this point in this beginning relationship the two people just agree that they want to explore each other more.
The process that humans have evolved for further exploration is called "dating" or "courting". That means more outings together and further exchange of talk and general enjoyment of being close and compatible. Whether or not the two participate in sex is normally the woman's choice. The general rule is this:
"Men must court and women will select."
When Reality Becomes Evident
Usually the real-life decision for continuing the relationship is based on the "bottom line": Costs versus Rewards. Are both partners contributing equally to the relationship and life together? Are the rewards equal and fair for both? If the costs versus rewards ratio is unfair, over the long run the stress and resentment will destroy the relationship. In a marriage it can cause daily emotional discomfort and possibly eventual disease and an early death.Research Learn More . . .If both partners get what they want from each other, life can be fantastic together! That extraordinary appreciation and satisfaction with each other in making life work is generally called "love". Most people are seeking a mate to make that happen and it can start with Step 1 of the 5 steps in flirting, dating, and mating.
PICTURES of body language in flirting steps.
| Step 1 | Step 2 | Step 3 | Step 4 |
Step 5 (You are here.) |
