About Hand Shaking

In the U.S. it has become the custom in social situations for women to follow men's rules in handshaking. That means to make sure your right hand is free to shake hands if he extends his hand first. If he doesn't extend his hand, you may extend yours for a handshake, if appropriate. This will make it clear that you consider women and men to be treated and respected equally. So if it is appropriate where you are, extend your hand for a handshake when you approve of him joining you. His type of hand shake can be an excellent clue for evaluation of him!
Here is what to watch for in his handshake:

• If he rotates your hand so his hand is over the top of yours (his palm facing down, forcing yours to face up in his) guess how he wants his body to be in relation to yours? This is a very controlling guy and he wants to "jump on your bones" right now. Watch out!

• Only the two hands equally vertical shows a sense of equality between you both. If both of you have your hands vertical, then the strength of the grip is most revealing here.
  • Firm grip-- Has self-confidence. Takes care of self. Sincere.

  • Weak grip-- Lack of confidence and insecure.

  • Limp grip and arm-- Wimp. Needs a lot of support to get things done. Looking for a "mother".

  • If his eyes disconnect immediately looking off to the left or right, he is disinterested (or afraid) in really getting to know you and investing much of his own honest self in you.

  • Also watch to see if he makes eye contact and smiles, at least briefly. These are two friendly good signs. You do the same.

  • Swinging your hand side-to-side, instead of up and down-- Trying to disarm you for manipulation later. This guy will be a "smooth talker" who will take everything you have then move on to another victim. Excuse yourself and leave now!

So if it is appropriate, whenever you can shake hands go ahead and do it to gather more information about the other person.