The first secret about body language is that much of our body language is about getting sex -- or defending against it. In spite of all the social pressure to hide and suppress our natural sexual urges, our sexual desires are still often revealed in our unconscious body language.
Interestingly, this drive to get sex and reproduce is handled differently in men and women. Generally, single men are looking for immediate sex. Single women are more often looking for a relationship first (for protection and survival with the help of a man) and then sex may happen afterwards.
Below is one example of a man's posture emphasizing his sexuality.
When casually standing like this, he will usually directly face the woman who appeals to him. Notice that the fingers all point to "you-know-what-is-important" to this guy: Sex! Of course, guys claim that this is just a comfortable way to stand.
Yah, sure it is -- NOT!
Here at the right is one way women call attention to their sexuality with their body language. It is quite obvious that this woman is unconsciously advertising to the world that she is a healthy woman. This woman's body language could not be more clear and simple! She is unconsciously saying, "My womb is empty and available." This is very deep; old brain limbic system-driven body language programmed by the DNA from our ancient ancestors. This ancient part of the brain functions in very basic ways, driving us to find a mate. This drive is handled differently in men and women.
Nearly every sperm-producing animal and human male must expend much time and effort in convincing the female to accept him and his sperm. This has forced most males, both animals and humans, to initiate a process called "courtship". Animal and human courtship is done in many different ways. Some male birds, whales and gibbons "sing". Some birds dance or build special nests to attract a female. Human males have been very innovative in countless ways to attract a mate through courting.
Here are some interesting facts about the mating process:
Some researchers have claimed that human survival in the past simply worked this way:
Men traded food for sex.
Women traded sex for food and protection to survive.
© Copyright 2005, revised 2009 by Lawrence Rodrigues, M.S., Director: EastWest Institute for Self-Understanding.
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